Hey there! How are you?
As I sit down to write this post, I’m thinking non-judgement—simplicity.
Sheesh—what was I thinking when I made this plan?
I have no idea where this is going, but let’s dive in!
I guess mindfulness really doesn’t exist without simplicity—quiet, peaceful, easy awareness. Likewise, non-judgement is so much more accessible when we clear the path to it. Yet, simplicity is a rule that too few of us live by, instead opting for the generic, busy, complicated, messy life of the people.
Actually, to be fair, I’m not sure we opt for it, as such—it’s more of a default setting, the display model, the only life we’ve ever known.
Tomorrow, we’ll talk about choices—more than we know. Too many?!
free to be
When we cut through the bramble and focus on the present moment, letting go of past regrets and future worries, we open to the possibility to just be.
I heard this recently, though I can’t remember exactly where. I want to say it was either a webcast with Martha Beck, sociologist and author, or Brené Brown, researcher storyteller. Whoever it was, she was talking about giving up on who you once wanted to be, so that you can be you now. Fully.
Not judging ourselves or holding ourselves to past promises.
I know we’re all thinking—not judge ourselves?
Not possible! But, hopefully, after our kindful chat yesterday, we can, little by little, give ourselves a break (lotta commas in that sentence, lotta breaks!).
Martha/Brené talked about how we limit ourselves by holding onto past ideals—how they stop us from appreciating everything we have now.
Are you holding onto any empty dreams that are restricting your fulfillment?
Any dreams of being an Olympian or an astronaut or a mermaid? Not saying that you definitely can’t be any of these things now, but perhaps it was a dream of a younger you and you actually don’t want to be any of these things now?
But, you’re still thinking, if only … ?
Can we let go of the old possibilities and regrets of chances not taken (perhaps never given)—to embrace what is and what will never be?
What is meant to be.
stuff is fluff
Speaking of letting go—something that is just riddled with judgement is stuff.
Material stuff that makes us focus on what we don’t have, rather than what we do have.
We’ll talk more about this when we head into purposeful attention.
Right now, let’s focus on material stuff as the yardstick we measure ourselves by—ourselves and everybody else.
Social media, especially, has opened up all of our lives to scrutiny, to comparison, to judgement.
Scrutiny, not only from our peers, but from corporations that track all our viewing habits and slam us with advertising ’til the cows come home.
Ironically, I’m material (which is a relevant statement for a lot of us, in one way or another?) also reads as immaterial—and immaterial means unimportant.
Just as a side note, this reminds me of the quote—
Nothing is impossible. The word itself says “I’m possible!”
~ Audrey Hepburn
Do we want to keep judging ourselves and each other, based on the stuff that we have?
The unimportant stuff that we have?
Because, you know what? It’s wonderful that we’re possible—life is a gosh-darned miracle!
The more we have, the more we lose. Literally—we lose the stuff we actually need because it’s hidden in the stuff we don’t. We lose time because we’re always working toward getting more stuff and then constantly tidying, cleaning, sifting through stuff.
We lose sight of what’s important.
don’t overthink it
I couldn’t come up with a final section and I don’t overly think this might be it!
Oh, dear, stick with me—please!
There are a couple of earlier posts that are coming back to me—
When we chatted about gratitude and going back to basics—simply being thankful for being alive.
And then, in quiet the mind, we talked about thinking as judgement—feeling is experience.
This is where the elements of mindfulness start to come together.
Non-judgement and awareness are intertwined—when we’re fully present in the now, free from the weight of mind stuff and material stuff, what is there to judge?
There is only experience.
As we start to integrate these ideas, we can do another little exercise from Eckhart Tolle.
He asks—in this moment, right now, what problems do you have?
Not five minutes from now or five hours from now, but right this moment—do you have any pressing issues?
You’re reading this post, so I really hope no problems to deal with?!
Equally, we can ask ourselves—in this moment, what judgements do we have?
Again, hopefully none, but if we do—
Are they serving us?
Or are they immaterial?
Enjoy your day.