Radio silence for three weeks and now write twice in two days. All great blogging teachers start and end with the golden rule—
Sorry! Bad student over here.
Oh, the great divide between good bloggers and, well, me.
And, this leads beautifully (funny that!) into our chat for today—the great divide between what we know and what we do.
I’m reading Mark Nepo’s The Book of Awakening at the moment—actually, I’ve been reading it all year. Slow reader, much?! It’s written like a journal, with a core lesson per day, so I decided why not read it just like that? Manageable chunks.
Now, I’m a little late in sharing this one because I was stuck in a wordless hole for a bit there, but last week, I read this and I’ve been thinking about it ever since—
In fact, because the space between what we intend and what we do is often great, we keep beginning. Because the gap between what we feel and what we say is often surprising, we keep trying. Because the field between what we experience and what we understand is so vast, we keep growing.
~ Mark Nepo, October 25, To the Core
And, I think, when it comes to our wellness—the divide between what we know and what we do is wide.
Consider this—you don’t do washing for a month and then you’ve got this great mountain-sized pile of clothes and sheets and towels to wash all at once. You think to yourself—why, oh why, did I not wash along the way?
Is it not the same with our wellness? Self-care is viewed as a once-in-a-while treat. In the meantime, mountain-sized piles of stress and tension and self-neglect grow and our occasional snippets of care don’t have a show of repairing the damage—we don’t have nearly enough pegs or line space to hang all that crap out to dry!
So, manageable chunks. Regular manageable chunks—daily, even.
To lessen the divide between what we know and what we do, because we know how to take care of ourselves. And why we should do it. We do. We know it. We just don’t prioritise it—and we know exactly why this is the case, too.
Because, society has called it a treat—which is something to be occasionally indulged in and felt guilty for immediately after. So, that’s exactly what we do!
Step one—shift this belief. Because, no matter what we do or how often we do it, if we’re of the belief that it’s selfish or indulgent or guilt-worthy, then it’s not doing us any good, anyway.
Society—thanks, but no thanks. We’re going to take care of ourselves from now on.